The lovely Liz Stevison and Arlo (6 months). Liz is very career driven and never really wanted to have children of her own. After seeing her husband with her nieces and nephews, however, she began to realize that watching her husband become a father would be a gift to them both. They decided to spend some time in Europe before trying, thinking that things would just happen when they were ready.
Liz was surprised when she didn't conceive right away and found that it put a lot of strain on her relationship with her husband. She pulled back, poured herself into her career, spent some time working across the country, giving her husband space to do the same. She says that once she stopped caring and somewhat let go of the idea of getting pregnant she conceived quickly.
Unfortunately, she had a miscarriage at about 10 weeks along. Liz says that while she was sad and did have a hard time initially, she found comfort in science and knowing that most women have miscarriages at some point in their lives. She was able to conceive Arlo soon after and went on to have a pregnancy she found quite enjoyable. She enjoyed the calm that people seemed to have around her and the energy that they had towards her.
When Liz was about 4 months pregnant she learned that her mother had been diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer and needed to undergo treatment. While devastating, she says that she knew her mom was going to be okay, and today she is cancer free. Pregnancy progressed well but she learned in her third trimester that she was borderline pre-eclamptic. She was monitored and needed to spend the night in the hospital twice before they decided to induce at 36 weeks.
Liz had originally wanted a midwife assisted water birth but was told that by the time she got there her BMI would be too high for her to labor or birth in the water. She had accepted the fact that she would simply labor at home in her tub and go in when it was time but her induction changed things. She still hoped to avoid an epidural but she found the doctor's checks to be unbearable and as her labor wore on with magnesium and pitocin she knew she needed the relief.
Liz was able to birth vaginally without any complication and though early and small at 5lbs, Arlo was healthy. Once he was born Liz was so exhausted she asked if they could please turn the magnesium off and give her something to sleep. Worried she would seize, they continued treatment but gave her a Norco which caused her to hallucinate. Once they finally discontinued the magnesium she was finally able to rest and felt like a new woman. Liz and her husband were able to bring Arlo home but landed back in the Children's hospital for photo therapy due to jaundice. While there she realized she had a kidney infection and walked to the women's hospital for antibiotics and a nap, that was so needed. Liz says that once again, she was faced with something difficult and able to just know she'd get through it.
From not wanting to become a mother to feeling like motherhood has awakened a clarity and optimism that she had in her youth, Liz says that anything feels possible.