The magnificent Candace Mensik and Magnus (20 months). Candace developed a blood clot from birth control when she was 19 and was diagnosed with Deep Vein Thrombosis. She's had to be on blood thinners via injection ever since and was warned that any pregnancy would be high risk as a result. She was told that any pregnancy may or not be possible but would be high risk due to her multiple vascular surgeries, including stent placements throughout her femoral vein, up through my groin and into my vena cava, which runs behind her uterus. It was unknown whether or not pressure from a pregnancy would cause circulatory issues. Her doctor was also concerned with her clotting during pregnancy with the extra hormones, because she has the Factor V Leiden mutation. Candace had hoped to do things as naturally as possible but accepted that she may need more monitoring and intervention.
Candace was able to conceive without complication and had a very healthy pregnancy. Her doctor wanted to be in as much control as possible so he scheduled an induction but she ended up going into labor on her own before hand. Things continued to progress well, but there were a few things said and done along the way that she didn't agree with. Her doctor broke her water which she didn't want and at one point told her she needed to be quiet and relaxed so she felt like she just had to lay there and be still rather than moan and move like her body was telling her to. He told her this was because he didn't want Magnus' cord to prolapse. Her doctor told her he wanted to do an episiotomy which Candace refused and she was able to push Magnus out without any medication.
Unfortunately, Candace tore internally all the way up to her cervix and lost a liter of blood. Healing has been a long and painful process and it wasn't until the last couple of months that she realized she isn't having daily pain any longer. She is still having some difficulties though and hopes to explore possible physical therapy as well as alternative birthing options for her next pregnancy. Breastfeeding has gone very well for Magnus and Candace and she has made an overabundance of milk that has allowed her to donate to several other families.
Candace feels that now more than ever, women need to band together and rise up together in support of one another. "Our bodies are beautiful and we need to honor that, we need to take care of ourselves and love ourselves. "
Calling herself a Mother has been life's greatest gift. "I teach Magnus to love and honor those who are different, and I can only hope that he grows up to share peace, light and love with those who surround him."