The stunning Katelyn Silvoy with Nilah (2) and Ryland (8 months). Katelyn and her husband tried to conceive for a little over a year before she got pregnant with Nilah. They had themselves tested but everything game back normal so their doctors weren't able to explain why they couldn't conceive. The ultimately tried Intrauterine Insemination (IUI) and were able to get pregnant on the first attempt. Katelyn has a blood clotting disorder and had to take daily injections throughout her pregnancy to protect herself and her baby. She was very sick the first three months of her pregnancy which made things difficult and when she was 7 months pregnant, her husband who is in the Coast Guard, got orders to move to a new city. She was quite shaken to have to move and find a new provider that late in pregnancy.
Katelyn found a provider and was ultimately induced successfully with a foley ball. Her labor progressed well and she delivered with an epidural but sustained a second degree tear that was stitched up immediately. She says that everything went very normally but after her birth she was in incredible pain. So much so that walking and sitting continued to be difficult. Katelyn refused a routine pap at her 6 week postpartum check-up and says that her doctor never even examined her vaginal area, he just told her she must still be healing. At around 10 weeks postpartum, still in pain, Katelyn found a new provider to take her seriously and went in for an exam. She learned that due to the poor manner in which her tear had been repaired, her scar tissue was building up and closing her vaginal opening. Within two weeks her new doctor had in her in for reconstructive surgery.
As Katelyn healed she continued to struggle and felt devastated about her body. Her husband was amazingly supportive but she felt that her womanhood had somehow been destroyed and her body failed. It has been a long road to emotional recovery and renewed intimacy for her and her partner. Another pregnancy was the last thing on her radar, and in fact due to their previous fertility struggles and her birth related injury, she wasn't sure they could get pregnant again. She learned they had conceived Ryland spontaneously and it took a couple of months to settle into her pregnancy.
Katelyn chose to stay with her doctor who had performed her reconstruction for her pregnancy and birth as he now knew her body better than anyone. He gave her the option to attempt to deliver vaginally or schedule a cesarean birth but after some contemplation she realized she was too scared of what could possibly happen to delivery vaginally and chose to deliver via cesarean. Her birth went well but they gave her the blood thinning medication to prevent clots post op and she began to bleed internally. Because they weren't able to continue the medications she had to move around as much as possible to prevent clots, but everything went well.
Just as Katelyn had settled into life postpartum with two her husband received orders to move again. Pulled away from her friends and support she has begun to struggle emotionally again. She and her husband are presently trying to navigate the best living scenario to provide themselves with the community of support they need and she's working to ensure that she has the time and space for self-care herself. The power of support can make all the difference in your story, she says.