The inspirational Hayley Lane with her daughters Oceane (7) and Keoki (5) and son Teal (2). Hayley is currently 9 weeks pregnant with her 6th baby and birth mum to twins Kim & Kay (21). Hayley became pregnant for the first time at age 13 and gave birth to twins at the age of 14. She stayed at school until she was 6.5 months pregnant but nobody knew. She stayed at home for the next 2.5 months, in fear of anyone finding out, holding so much shame and guilt. Around 38 weeks she went to the hospital for an anti-natal check up, she was told that things weren’t good and was admitted into hospital, that night she went into labour. It was a very traumatic birth and had her parents by her side to support her. From the staff at the hospital, she felt like she was treated like a number, legs in stirrups with no emotion or care. She woke up in the morning in the silence of a single room, all by herself, in a bed full of blood, locked windows and didn’t know what to think or what to do. She went back to school two weeks later and everything seemed to be swept under the carpet.
Hayley spent the rest of her school, teen years and early twenties in a lot of turmoil. She didn’t know who she was, what she was doing, why her body was full of stretch marks. She had self esteem issues and wondered why it had to happen to her. She reached a point of no return and decided she might as well end her life. She had low and dark moments but was able to dig deep and move to heal herself. She found yoga and with it the only thing in life that brought her peace. The sense of stability in her mind manifested into something she’d never experienced in the flesh. At 24 she’d studied and done degrees but still didn’t know who she was and what she wanted to be. She decided she wanted to become a yoga teacher so she went to the states to do her yoga training and when she came back life started to get rosy.
Years later she met her partner, landed in Australia and fell pregnant right away. She was worried that everything was happening all over again but took it as her opportunity to instead dig deep, do the work and heal. She saw some great therapists and ultimately realized that this time she could be in control of herself and her birth experience. She found the most incredible midwife who has since attended all of her births. She was able to have a beautiful homebirth with Oceane after 5 hours of later. She another homebirth after 4 hours of labor with Keoki and says it was an enlightening spiritual experience, she was smiling and her daughter was crowning. With Teal, she wondered what would go wrong because it just had to at some point but he was born in 90 minutes to a room full of women and it was a very empowering experience. Hayley laughed as she said she’s always dreamed of giving birth outdoors in a teepee so lets make it happen with this new baby.
Her passion in life is empowering women so they can love themselves, their bodies and have the births they hope to have.