The lovely Alex McClintock and Rian (18 months).
Alex was raised with home birth as the norm and always imagined that was how she would have her babies when the time came. Her husband wasn't on board at first but they eventually found a midwife and planned to birth at home. Pregnancy went very well for Alex and was fairly typical. She says she felt sick her first trimester, great during her second and was ready to be done in her third.
During an ultrasound at 36 weeks, the tech told her that her baby was already really big so she'd probably deliver early. Her due date was October 05 but they said she'd likely deliver in September which she began to look forward to. September came and went and October 04, Alex went into labor. She labored at home in the pool but there was a slow leak they had to keep refilling and ultimately her midwife said that they should stop using it. Alex was a bit disappointed at losing the ability to have her water birth but was able to shift gears and deliver Rian in her bed. She was over 10lbs at birth and Alex remembers thinking, there was no way that was her newborn.
Rian was born not breathing and the mask attached the oxygen was too small so her midwife ended up resuscitating her by mouth. Rian began breathing on her own and was doing well but they decided to call an ambulance as a precaution. Alex's midwife had given her an IV at home and suggested that her husband ride along with Rian in the ambulance and they meet them there. Everyone felt okay with this decision but when Alex arrived at the hospital and hour later, the nurses were not kind to her and asked repeatedly why she hadn't stayed with her baby. They even told her that she likely wouldn't be able to breastfeed because she had been away from her daughter.
Alex felt like she had just become a mother and she was already doing things wrong. Thankfully, one of the nurses pulled her aside and told her not to worry about everyone else, she was doing a great job. That was a redemptive moment for Alex and she felt better from there. Rian spent the next four days in hospital for observation and though unexpectedly being in the NICU was difficult they were able to work through it and established breastfeeding without any issues.
Alex wanted to share her story to help show other mothers that while things don't always go as planned it's still okay to celebrate your experience.