The amazing Jordan Else and Evan Walter (9 months). Jordan also has 16 year old bonus daughter.
Jordan and her husband were able to conceive just two months after they decided to try and she had a wonderful pregnancy. Jordan was nervous and imagined her pregnancy would be somewhat complicated but it wasn't other than some symphysis pubis dysfunction she needed physical therapy to help her through. While the pregnancy was a very beautiful time for Jordan and her husband, for her step daughter the thought of a new baby was just "weird". Around 33 weeks they sat down and asked her to get on board and she did! She and Evan are great friends now.
Jordan was hoping for a more natural birth with an OB who fit the model of care she was hoping for along with a doula. Jordan has some neurologic issues and as they weren't sure how that would affect her birth, so delivering in hospital was important. Labor began slowly on a Thursday evening but Evan was not born until the following Tuesday. Jordan's contractions would pick up and slow down. She was grateful that she had prepared by reading positive birth experiences and knew that this could be normal. In the middle of the third day, Jordan went into the hospital not expecting to be very dilated but was pleasantly surprised to find she was 5cm.
The hospital Jordan chose to deliver in was very gentle and supportive of her choices. She opted to have an epidural and felt empowered in that decision and because they needed their doulas as less of advocates as they'd thought they were able to be more of a practical support to Jordan's husband. His daughters birth had been quite traumatic and some of that resurfaced but the doula's were able to offer reassurance.
After five days of labor, Jordan only had to push for 20 minutes before Evan was born. It has been very important for Jordan to get up and out postpartum and she was able to find a moms hiking group that has provided a wonderful network of supportive friends. After returning to work as a nurse practitioner two months postpartum, Jordan was surprised to learn her pay had been docked because she was breastfeeding. After evaluating finances and her happiness, Jordan decided to leave her job so she can stay home with her son. It's been difficult to find her place as a non-working person but she's working on finding her new identity in who she is now.
Motherhood so often comes with judgment and stigma and it's been important for Jordan to focus on positivity. The camaraderie of knowing we all have a story to tell and every story is beautiful drew Jordan in to this movement. "It's hard to adjust to the changes motherhood brings sometimes but in our similarities and differences we're all beautiful"