The lovely Lorrin McDonald and Harper Page (13 months).
When Lorrin and her fiance found out they were expecting, it was a very stressful time. As much as they were thrilled to be becoming parents, they both come from very conservative families and are very involved in their church. The fact they had conceived a child before their wedding was a hiccup that was hard for some to swallow. Their families and church were very disappointed and they were both asked to step down from the positions they served. Thankfully their families came around and joined in their excitement and Harper is now the highlight and joy of her grandparent's lives.
Lorrin hadn't given much thought to childbirth prior to getting pregnant but started reading and researching after watching the 'Business of Being Born'. She went into things with the goal of delivering with as little interventions as possible and her biggest concern was the added risk of having a cesarean. More than anything, Lorrin's biggest desire was to be fully there and be able to bring her daughter into the world the way she hoped.
The day before Lorrin's due date she woke up concerned she was leaking amniotic fluid so she started tracking contractions. She had been experiencing Braxton Hicks for months but on this day they were coming non stop, but she didn't have any pain. By about 2pm her fiancé made the decision to leave work and they headed to the hospital. After an hour of monitoring and a check they determined that she was not in fact leaking fluid or having consistent contractions, and they were sent home. They headed home and to the bedroom for a little afternoon delight, after which her fiancé headed out to mow the lawn. 10 minutes later, Lorrin felt a "woosh" and knew her water had definitely broken. Her fiancé finished mowing the lawn and they headed back to the hospital.
Lorrin walked around the hospital for a few hours but her contractions weren't very strong and she wasn't dilated or effaced. She wanted to wait as long as possible before getting pitocin, so they gave her cervadil around 11pm and within 10 minutes contractions were getting extremely strong and 2-3 minutes apart. They gave another dose around 3am but she still wasn't dilating past 3cms. She was told that by 9:30am they were going to start the pitocin and by this point she hadn't eaten or slept in over 36 hours. As supportive as the nurses were, they let her know that if she didn't start dilating, she was on the fast track to delivering via cesarean. By this point, Lorrin says she cared less about the way her daughter was born and just wanted her out.
After 90 minutes of Pitocin, Lorrin asked for an epidural and within 15 minutes was able to sleep. They put a "peanut" between her legs and she woke up an hour later feeling a lot of pressure. Lorrin was reassured that the baby was moving down and that she was only at a 7 but a few minutes later she pushed the subject again. After prodding to finally get someone to check her again, she learned she was fully dilated and ready to go. At this point she had started transition and could not stop shaking and throwing up.
Lorrin felt like she was struggling to breathe and was sick all throughout her pushing phase but Harper was born quickly and she was able to have immediate skin to skin with no interventions for over an hour. She latched on immediately and has had zero issues nursing. Lorrin hopes to continue until whenever Harper feels ready to wean.
Lorrin was underweight for most of her life and constantly labeled "the skinny girl". Prior to pregnancy she joked that she couldn't wait to get pregnant and "fill out" and that's exactly what happened. "I realized my entire body was transformed by this blessing of a kid. I found 4th trimester on Instagram and was immediately overwhelmed by the community of women who were celebrating their bodies after becoming a mother. Body image was always something that has surrounded women in our culture. My worth is not in pounds and inches, but in how I overcome the everyday struggles and trials of being a woman and a mother."