Mel Parsons (38), Jaya (14), Sasha (10), Phoenix (would be 4), Niko (3), and Oscar (10 months)
Mel is a previous project participant. You can view her original photo and story here.
Mel shares -
"I have been careful in how I share about my loss as I want to make sure to help people show compassion toward me and the death of my daughter. There is so much stigma in our society that I have learned how to word things so as to protect myself from judgement. I had an abortion. After learning of the rare and fatal genetic condition my daughter had, I made the loving and righteous decision to allow my daughter to be born at 22 weeks and pass peacefully in my arms rather than the more violent death she would have had closer to term. I labored with her for 4.5 hours, just like her older sisters. When she was born, I was so extremely proud of her. That day with her was the most sacred day of my life. She lived for 64 minutes. Our close friends and family were there with us that day. My daughters were 9 and 5. They marveled at their little sister for her one and only day with our family. We took as many photos as we could to capture her life. Every day, all day long, I want her. I want her body whole and healthy in the backyard playing with her siblings. I want to teach her about love and courage. I wonder how loud her tantrums would be. I wonder what she would like to draw. I will never ever be the same since she came into my life and I would never want to be.
When I first became a mom at 24, I hated my stretch marks. Now I mean it when I say that I love them.
Everyone has a story. We are all in this together. Assume the best of others and love yourself deeply.
I've come to a place where I am ready for the world to hear that I had an abortion and it was the most sacred day of my life."