"It was two days after Christmas and I was sitting in a Meijer bathroom while my mom grocery shopped. I stared at that pink plus sign, and I knew in my gut I didn't want to continue the pregnancy. My boyfriend told me the decision was mine to make, even though he didn't personally want me to have an abortion. I feel that I got really lucky with him because he supported me through the whole process and constantly asked if there was anyway he could make the whole process easier for me despite his personal feelings.
My best friend, who is a mother, is one of the most supportive people I had by my side throughout the process. It's so special to me how we both went through a lot of the same obstacles (unexpected pregnancies) and chose such different paths, but there's never been a hint of anything but support from either of us. I'm so proud of her for having a baby when she felt ready, and I know she's proud of me for making the best decision best for me. My boyfriend and my best friend are the best support system I could ever ask for through this. Even though I never had a single doubt in my mind about my decision, it's still hard to process when there's so much stigma surrounding abortion.
People seem to forget that not every abortion is sad. My heart goes out to every woman who has mad to make this choice for the most heart wrenching of reasons, but some of us really just aren't ready to be mothers and I am so happy I had this option. In all reality, if abortion wasn't legal I would have had one anyway. It could be unsafe - I may by dead right now, or fighting an infection. That's a hard pill to swallow. We shouldn't have to consider going back to the days of wire hangers. I will always be pro whatever the hell you want to do because it's your body, and I can only hope that if I have a daughter someday, she lives in a world that feels the same.
""Abortion laws are just one more way of marginalizing people, of judging them, of shaming them, of restricting their choices and not being present for them afterward. It’s another way of devaluing women.