The fabulous Carly Friedman, Miriam Lee (5) and Samuel Atticus (5 months).
Carly and her husband tried for about two years to conceive prior to getting pregnant with Miriam. They had just started considering fertility medications but were able to avoid it. Carly felt sick throughout her pregnancy but it everything went well medically. She had always joked that she would need to be put under and deliver via cesarean but once she found herself planning her birth realized she wanted to go about things more naturally.
Carly had hoped to deliver with a midwife but was living in Birmingham at the time and midwives were not yet legal. She chose instead to deliver in hospital with a doula and arrived at the hospital at 9 cms dilated. Miriam birth was beautiful and she nursed well until she weaned at 18 months.
Carly and her husband decided to start trying for a second child when Miriam was three. After trying to stimulate ovulation without success they were able to conceive Sam on their first IVF attempt. Carly was sick again throughout this pregnancy and wasn't gaining any weight. She saw nutritionists and a dietician but was still not gaining. In her third trimester, Sam was diagnosed with Intrauterine Growth Restriction (IUGR) and they were referred to a doctor of Maternal and Fetal Medicine (MFM). Their MFM noticed some abnormalities with Sam's heart and they many scans trying to determine the issue. After confirming that Sam was not growing at her 39 weeks appointment they scheduled a cesarean delivery for 5am the following day. When Carly went into the hospital they realized she was having contractions and she delivered Sam without complication at 4:30am.
Carly was able to hold Sam for a few minutes before he was taken to NICU where he spent the next 5 days. Carly spent 6 years in grad school and defended her dissertation, she was in New Orleans during Katrina and still, she says that NICU stay was the most difficult thing she's ever been through. Sam's heart has continued to be monitored and a valve that should have dissolved after birth has begun to constrict his esophagus and trachea. He will undergo surgery tomorrow morning to repair the valve.
There isn't one way to get pregnant, have a baby or be a parent and Carly feels it's very important to show those variations of all that is normal.