The amazing Marie Failon and her daughter Nelly (8 weeks). When Marie was thirty years old, she and her partner wanted to have a child. After a few months, she felt a lump in her throat and had to have surgery to remove it. They told her it was likely benign but she was instead diagnosed with thyroid cancer. She had to have a second operation and then radiotherapy. Because of the radiation, she had to wait to have a child while they made sure it was all of her system. It took two years for her exams to come back clear and she was able to stop taking her contraception. Marie says that she and her partner were very happy and she got pregnant right after. Unfortunately, she miscarried quite quickly at just 6 or 7 weeks. Her gynecologist reassured her by telling her that it was very common. They tried again, and again, but in two years there were 3 more miscarriages and one ectopic pregnancy.
Marie had five pregnancies in two years and lost them all but no one understood why. All of their medical tests were good, but all the pregnancies stopped, at the same step. They were desperate, she was crying every day, had nightmares and thought she would never have children. They started thinking about adoption and in vitro fertilization, but first wanted to pause, to regain their strength. They decided to wait three months and it's then when she got pregnant with Nelly.
Marie was very scared at the beginning of the pregnancy and it is only when the baby that it felt real. The pregnancy went well, with the usual symptoms like nausea and fatigue but no medical problems. The birth went very well also, her water broke water at 5am in her sleep and at 10:30 Nelly was in my arms. The delivery was very fast and she had an epidural at the end, which allowed her to be calm for delivery. Once Nelly's head was out her gynecologist told her to take her myself, and she did it " ... a wonderful and unique moment". Marie really enjoy being a mother, and says that every moment before Nelly, she felt like "a mother without child".
Marie says she discovered the project a long time ago and often looked at the website. Some stories have helped her when she could not have a baby because she saw other difficult situations, with happy endings. "I liked looking at the photos because I worried about the body changes during pregnancy. I was afraid that my body is no longer as before. Then I realized I never liked my body anyway. Pregnancy can be an opportunity to think about body image, and perhaps improve it. During my pregnancy, I could see the body changes and I knew it wouldn't be easy, but I was also proud of what my body could do. It was an opportunity to see it differently.
"I do not want Nelly to have a mom who feels ugly, who hides, and who does not like herself. When she grows up, I don't want her to have the same complexthat I have. I want her to understand that beauty is not what we are told, and I hope she will feel beautiful, because she will be."