The radiant Kristi Wagley Richard and Ellison Blair (5 months). Kristi says that motherhood is harder than she ever thought it would be. She and her husband have been married for 12 years, both have very successful careers and never wanted to have children. They got comfortable in their lives and selfishly never wanted that to change. When Kristi found herself pregnant she was faced with what to do. She knew abortion wasn't an option and they ruled out adoption knowing that there was no real social issue that suggested their child would be better off with a different family, she also knew that after having something grow inside her for 10 months, she would love it.
Her pregnancy from a physical standpoint was perfect and she remained very healthy. Mentally, however, it was a constant struggle. She was induced at 41 weeks and had an epidural and assistance of a midwife she trusts and has known forever.
Kristi took three months off of work to be home with her daughter and says the first month was the hardest month of her life. Physically her body recovered well but mentally again she was in a very difficult place. People always told her that when her baby arrived she'd love her and she does love her, but says when you don't want a child and you have a child, it still doesn't necessarily make you want a child. There was no instruction manual and the three months until she returned to work continued to be incredibly hard.
Kristi says that returning to work has allowed them to find their villages. Ellison loves going to daycare and Kristi finds that her career allows her to feel more like herself and fulfill the needs she was missing at home. It also allows her to miss her daughter and make the most of the time that they do have together. Kristi wants to show more than anything that she has changed, while it may not be one that is readily noticeable physically there has been a change in Kristi, Ellison is here and she, is her mother.