Alison Hoskins-Kelly (34 - 29 weeks pregnant) and Oscar (22 months)
Ali shares -
“Luckily, getting pregnant and having healthy babies has been easy for me. I was pregnant with my first two months after going off the pill, and my second happened accidentally when we were least expecting it. Abortion was definitely a consideration, but my husband was on board right away with a second child, and I acknowledged that I could get there.
I gained a lot of weight with my first pregnancy, and even more while breastfeeding. The pediatrician told me to consume calories to make more milk, and I sure did. Once I was done breastfeeding, I lost about 30 lbs, just in time for a surprise second pregnancy. In this pregnancy I’ve gained even more weight, but I know once the baby is born and breastfeeding is established, I can get back to my happy weight.
My second pregnancy happened even though I had an IUD. It was a big blow to my self esteem. I felt betrayed by my own decision, by my midwife, by my body. I’ve worked really hard with my friends, family, and a gifted therapist to get in the right headspace to welcome this little girl.
Breastfeeding was a struggle at first since I’d labored for 41 hours before having having an emergency cesarean. But once we got the hang of it, it was more natural and I was able to nurse until Oscar decided on his own he was done at 13 months. I found local breastfeeding groups and new mom support groups to be so helpful in curing my feelings of isolation with a little baby.
2018 has been a rough year. First there was all the emotional and physical work of a surprise pregnancy. Then my mom, who was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer 12 weeks into my first pregnancy, passed away on May 8. It has truly been a struggle to keep positive and keep my body and mind healthy for my children. I wanted a beautiful, powerful photo of this time so I can remember my own strength in motherhood.
Your children will reflect you, right or wrong. Someone told me that when my son was 11 days old, and i really took it to heart. I try to be relaxed and calm with my son, and in turn, he’s been a very easy going kid.”