Leslie Roos (30 - 35.5 weeks pregnant) and Eleanora (2.5)
Winnipeg | Toronto
Leslie shares -
“I chose to have an abortion at age 20, when I wasn't planning or ready to be a parent. I aim to be open about this because I felt alone in my experience at the time. However, I also find it challenging to not internalize stigma and explain the decision because I deeply value reproductive rights and believe that deciding to have an abortion in no way needs to be associated with internal strife.
Becoming a mother has made me deeply appreciative of the incredible transformation and nurturing bodies are capable of doing. It has also made me aware of the importance of educating my own daughter about the unrealistic expectations placed on women's bodies across the lifespan. I feel much more respectful of my body and invested in treating it well, while also believing that it should bear marks of its journeys and the passage of time. Having an always supportive partner definitely makes this acceptance easier.
My postpartum journey felt like an onslaught of many things all at once - exciting, exhausting, painful, joyful, scary, and grounding. Having support from family, friends and other young parents was important for navigating the unexpected constant craziness of new parenthood. It was very helpful for me to stay connected to my "pre-parenthood" career goals while in graduate school and I was lucky to have a flexible supervisor who encouraged me to decide for myself how much I wanted to do. This ultimately made me realize how much I really love my job AND my kiddo.
I am here today because I believe this movement enables the wonderful diversity of 4th Tri humans to be seen & celebrated. As a 6ft tall woman with breasts and hips, I've often been uncomfortable with taking up space - physical, intellectual, or otherwise. This is BS! and I hope that when others see these stories they feel empowered to have pride in their own bodies and 4th Tri adventures.
I'd like any current, new, or prospective parent to know that you can decide entirely for yourself what your good-enough-best-still-doing-it-still-learning parenting style is because there are SO MANY ways to be a wonderful parent.”