The amazing Tamara Pottridge with her daughters, Harmony (15), Irene (3) and Aaron (9 mo). All three of her children were born at home, and she's had wonderful breastfeeding relationships. When she was pregnant with Harmony, she was in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship and felt like she didn't show up for her birth, she just laid there and let it happen. For her second two, she was able to show up and be an active participant. She was separated from her eldest daughter due to custody issues for 10 full years, which she feels led to significant postpartum anxiety with Irene. She was able to weather it, for the most part with the help of therapy and didn't have any issues after Aaron's birth.