Brielle (38 - she/her), Gray (5) and Cade (2)
Albuquerque, NM {Virtual Session} Brielle is repeat project participant. You can view her previous photograph and story in our archives.
How has parenthood impacted your body image?
Parenthood has filled me with pride and has had a mostly positive impact on my body image. I am still amazed at what my body has accomplished in growing and feeding two humans, and now growing a third. Having experienced two cesareans and some complications during pregnancy and birth, I know I can do anything. My body may look different than it did before and I'm perfectly happy with that. I do not look the same physically and I am not the same mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. While I may not have had the births I initially hoped for, I am proud of my body and my cesarean births.
What was your postpartum experience?
Adjusting to my first child was challenging initially, both physically and mentally. Nursing him was difficult and I needed lots of support to help us find our groove. I struggled to rediscover myself in my new body and mind, and in my new role as a mother. In my second pregnancy, I really struggled with my mental health. I didn't realize it was that serious until I mentioned my harmful thoughts to my partner who was incredibly supportive. I sought help and decided to talk about it at any chance I was given. In opening myself up to others I discovered how many other people had similar experiences.
What is your truth that you'd pass along to your former self, or a new parent?
Most of these phases will pass. Being sick during pregnancy, scared or nervous before birth, uncomfortable/unsure in your new body or mind, meeting your baby and your new self, living on no sleep - all these things will pass. Seek help and talk about your challenges, there is no shame is needing support.
How has your (pregnancy/birth/postpartum/parenting) been affected by COVID-19?
The pandemic put me in a dark place for a while. Through talking with my partner, mother, friends, and my doctor I started to feel hopeful again. I changed my birth control and looked into medication which really helped too.
Why did you choose to participate in this movement and share your story?
I love seeing and reading about parents who are different from me. We are all doing our best and are likely charting the unknown. I wish our society operated on more of the 'village' mentality, but since it doesn't, I will be the 'village' whenever I can be.