Nicole Younge (35 - she/her), Rowen (2), and Remy (8 mo)
Philadelphia, PA
I had one miscarriage in early 2016 and it made me so anxious about if I would be able to have a healthy pregnancy in the future. Luckily, 6 months later I was pregnant with my daughter. It definitely was hard to feel like my second pregnancy would "stick". I was so paranoid to tell any friends and family for fear of having to tell them I lost the baby. Hearing others stories of early loss and then successful subsequent pregnancies made was reassuring.
How has parenthood impacted your body image?
I was not the most secure body confident person prior to my children. After growing babies and having two home births I can now say that I am significantly more confident in my body. It's hard to deny the fact that your body is strong and amazing. I have moments of weakness but am always learning to be more gentle with myself.
What was your postpartum experience?
With my daughter it was a struggle to nurse and after a rough labor recovery it took months to feel human again. And honestly it was probably almost 9 months until I truly felt like I had a part in society. The adjustment to staying home was a real struggle to my self worth. With my son I felt like everything was completely opposite. My nursing experience went mostly smooth, my labor was quick and I really felt great. I almost thought I was feeling too good. After 4 months I kind of hit a low and realized I had to slow down a bit and listen to my body.
What is your truth that you'd pass along to your former self, or a new parent?
I would say to be easy on yourself and know that no one is perfect and we are all learning and growing. And do your best to not compare yourself to others. We are all in a different season of our lives and ultimately dealing with our own struggles.
Why did you choose to participate in this movement and share your story?
I have learned time and again that the more we share our stories and experiences the more we can all learn and grow. Hearing others experiences have always been something I truly treasure.