Eva Ray (55 - they/them). Parent to James (39), Jacob (31), and twins Joseph and Georgia (4). Grandparent to Jocelyn (17), Owen (15), Isla (9) and Jordyn (4)
Portland, OR
“I lost triplets via IVF. IVF is a crazy wonderful experience that can have devastating results. My twins are IVF babies.
How has parenthood impacted your body image?
After the twins were born I felt and looked like a deflated balloon. It was incredibly hard to feel good about my body. It wasn't bouncing back like my other pregnancies. Four years later I still look pregnant. But I am in love with my kids so I am learning to love my body.
What was your postpartum experience?
I thought at my age with all my experience having twins would be a piece of cake. Boy was a wrong! My once healthy body would soon fall apart. After I became pregnant I was diagnosed with thyroid, high blood pressure and diabetes problems. Soon to be diagnosed with severe preeclampsia. My body began swelling everywhere. I am amazed how big my body was. I am amazed I didn't explode. My babies were born 7 weeks early via cesarean.
I was told I wouldn't be able to breastfeed twins. I was told because of my age and health problems it would impossible to get my milk to come in. I showed them! As soon as i got my kids home breastfeeding was my focus. I did it! My milk supply came in. I breastfed them for 1121 days! I am so proud of myself! At some point postpartum depression came. It was something I knew nothing about. It's some real shit! Let me tell you! But I got help and medications. It took a year to get myself together. Never be afraid to ask for help! I love my new life. I love my kids. I am thankful. I am blessed.
What is your truth?
Even though nothing is perfect it can still be beautiful.
Why did you choose to participate in this movement and share your story?
I want my kids and my grand kids to know me. I want to be remembered. I want the world to know nothing is impossible. I breastfed 1,121 days! I want my kids to be proud of their bodies and their journeys. I want everyone to know I am proud of myself even though my body isn't perfect.