Kamille Carey (24), Aven (6), and June (2)
Columbia, MO
How has parenthood impacted your body image?
Growing up it was drilled in my head that skinny is best. When I was younger, I struggled with feeling like I was “too fat”, my legs were too thick and I always felt like I needed to diet and lose weight. With each pregnancy, I have felt more and more confident. With both births I’ve learned to love and appreciate my body more. Breastfeeding my daughter for two years has truly opened my eyes to how amazing our bodies truly are. Nourishing this little human and keeping her alive with something my body made especially for HER. Having a daughter, I feel it is critical for me to love myself and my body as it is. It’s quite the experience and I’m still learning every day.
What was your postpartum experience?
My mother struggled with postpartum depression to the point she left me when I was an infant. I remember when I was 17 years old and pregnant with my son. I was terrified I would struggle with PPD and not want my son. I felt this way because nobody around me talked about PPD - the only story I knew of was the story of my mom leaving. After I had my son, I struggled with PPD for a year. I felt alone with him, and things were very stressful due to being a teenage mother. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I knew what signs to look for and I knew what to expect if I were to struggle with PPD again.
This pregnancy was different because I had a supportive husband, and I had a supportive family. I also hired a doula and prepared myself as much as I could for an unmedicated hospital childbirth. My daughters birth was the most empowering, beautiful experience. I successfully gave birth to her with no pain medication and we still have a successful breastfeeding relationship. I think that, as well as having a huge support system, helped with my postpartum experience.
What is one piece of knowledge you'd pass along to your former self, or a new parent?
One thing I wish I could go back and tell myself is that it takes a village. It’s okay to ask for help, and it’s okay to admit you don’t know what you’re doing. I would also tell myself that no matter what, you are one good mom and your children will love you no matter what.
Why did you choose to participate in this movement and share your story?
I have been following 4th Trimester Bodies Project for a couple of a years and always enjoy all of the different stories and experiences. I think it is very inspiring and have always wanted to be a part of that.