Meagan Jablonski (29) and Mia (5 months)
Buffalo, NY
Meagan shares -
“I have barely any time to look at myself in the mirror, but when I look myself in the eye I do see a smug pride. I am proud of my body for what it did and what it can do. All through my long labor my mind was holding my body back, and I finally learned to trust my body and release into it's own wisdom, and now I am simply an observer in awe of what my body was able to do. I trust that my body is doing exactly what it should be, and I won't try to force it "back".
My hair is still falling out in masses, but I hope it stops soon. I experienced hormonal acne on my back like I haven't known since middle school, but it's pretty much better. I have gained many pounds, but I don't feel heavy. My hips caught marks from stretching during the very last week of my daughter's stay - and to me they're a free tattoo that shows how much I loved her.
I had craved motherhood for years. My partner and I had been trying to conceive for a long time and finally he helped me into healing myself with food alone. It took a while for me to feel comfortable with the pregnancy - how could we have made a perfect baby on our first conception when there is so much trauma in the world? I expected the worst because those are the stories that haunt you and stay with you. It was hard to feel positive during my pregnancy but I did my best.
The first few weeks of motherhood were surreal for me. My husband went back to work the day after the birth, and left for Florida that weekend. His work takes him away constantly and I felt guilty for wanting him there when he was working so hard to support us, and I felt angry that he wasn't getting to know his baby which led to more guilt because of course he wanted to know his baby and how could I not have empathy for my husband who was also feeling sad about missing his family?
I was awake and hungry, and so was my baby. I bled and watched movies, ate and nursed my baby. I watched her eyes change color and her beautiful body flush and plump up. I was immediately in love and also having the highs and lows of normal hormone fluctuations after pregnancy- which are not to be taken lightly.
I am still a fairly fresh postpartum mother, and I am very thankful that in our culture postpartum depression is so widely discussed. If I hadn't been warned about it I would have been caught off guard. But I was prepared. I asked my own mother to come around a lot once the baby arrived, and we grew closer because of that. I forced myself to get out for a walk every day in the winter, I ate my placenta (in pill form). I never watched anything sad (except for Downton Abbey, accidentally). I ate good food, I took bubble baths and relaxed. It helped me.
I'm here because I love myself. I'm proud of my body and what it has done. The advice I received during pregnancy from many people was fear based and less than positive. I want to be an example of natural birth (62 hours out of hospital, 42+ weeks) for those that want it (and not high risk) and are scared. I think a picture says more than I could about how happy I feel about how everything went and is going now.”